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Oct 21, 2016

Bassets and Bow Ties

I was so excited for our friends shower that we had planned.
I had my dress picked out for weeks, I got a mani/pedi in a shade that matched said dress, I picked up these shoes and was just on cloud nine in anticipation for weeks.
We had friends coming from literally all over the states to celebrate and hang out for the weekend.
Not to mention, Alexis had been teasing me about the cuteness of the Bassets and Bow Ties shower for weeks.  For starters, could that be a more adorable theme?

Well I think most of us know what happened instead of me making an appearance but I am happy to report all the girls did not let the party go to waste.  Once it was clear that I was not going to make it there, I insisted everyone hang out, munch on the yummy food and have a good time. 

And that they did!
A special thanks to Hannah for taking such good photos for us!
 Get outta here with those cookies!!
 Along with being sweet and dropping all of our gifts at our house, the girls stocked our fridge with the leftover yumminess so we would have food when we were home from the hospital.
 Is that not the most beautiful crew of ladies?

We are so thankful for everyone that came by the shower and for the generous gifts!
I think it is the most beautiful shower that I've ever attended solely through photos.

Oct 17, 2016

One Month

The past 4 weeks have been the fastest and slowest of our entire lives.
Clearly this whole experience has been the ultimate surprise but if you would have told us 31 days ago this is where we would be today, I would have laughed in your face.  
The amount of emotions, smiles, tears, fears and whole new world of knowledge we've experienced in the last month has been unreal. 
That being said, we are so happy Little Mister is here and makes us smile multiple times a day.  
I mean, he's super cute so that counts for something ;)
In one month 
-we've gone from pregnant to having a baby
-Little Mister has grown from 3lbs 5.6oz to 5lbs 1oz (!!)
-started nursing
-started taking a bottle
 -learned a WHOLE lot about NICU life and have a whole new appreciation for doctors and nurses
-been showered with immense amounts of love, support, meals and more from our friends than we could have ever imagined
-discovered preemie clothes are not the easiest thing to find (but can be done! post on that soon!)
-learned how to give a bath in a small pink hospital bucket
-learned what all the beeps and boops and noises within the NICU mean
 -enjoying celebrating milestones no matter how big or small
 and much, much MORE

Oct 14, 2016

Motherly Instincts

Happy Friday!

Today I have a very special guest here helping me out while I catch up on sleep and snuggles.

Libby's post below also talks about this but I met Libby through Mister and I am oh so glad I did.  They were great law school buddies and I am very happy that Mister shared her with me ;)  We've run a half marathon together, drank many a glasses of wine and discussed most things under the sun.
Libby has always been inspiring to me as a mother (she has 3 very adorable boys) and even more so now reflecting on how she went through the preemie journey as well. 

When we were in the midst of our crazy labor day and beginning to think what a NICU and preemie journey would look like  I very specifically looking at Mister and saying 'Libby's boy was early, right?!  And he's okay! So we will be okay.'  

I have a whole post in my head dedicated to this but no one ever talks about having a baby early.  Granted it is very scary but I think it should at least be approached at least one appointment.  
Through all of this it has been comforting to have close friends like Libby that know what you're feeling and what you're going through.  And what it means to sometimes just need to cry it out in your car.  Those days have thankfully gotten better ;) 

Take it away, Libby!

I was lucky enough to meet Sarah through Mister who was a law school classmate of mine. As many of you know, she is amazing.  Sarah’s bravery, commitment and dedication here, was part of my inspiration to start my own blog,

As a small thank you to Sarah for that inspiration, I figured I would try to give her a few extra hours to stare at Little Mister (or sleep) by writing a post. Here it goes…

Three weeks and 6 days ago, you became a mom. I could list all the standard cliche advice on how to be a great mom. Instead I’ll tell you a story that ends 4 weeks ago, when you were already a great mom.

Four years ago I, like you, noticed my Victoria Secret’s (who am I kidding? My underwear, full briefs, are from Target) were not feeling fresh from the dryer. I, like you, asked one of my doctors about it. I, like you, was told it was probably just a little pee-pee

That day, the probably just a little pee-pee day, I did not see my primary OB. I saw the doctor who was the grandfather of the practice. He gave me a wink and a pat on the back. Gently, yet wordlessly, dismissing my concerns while conveying that common message: Relax, first time mama. Nothing to worry about, you silly thing.

Despite his far greater pregnancy and childbirth experience than me, I, like you, doubted his conclusion. I, like you, googled obsessively. (If my doctor wouldn’t believe me, I could at least find some internet support to explain what was happening to me!) I, like you, soon there after, delivered early. 

As the nurse wheeled me into my delivery room, for one last time, just for good measure, I heard the doctor (again, not my primary OB, but another member of the practice) say, “did her water really break?”  One last chance to doubt the first-time pregnant woman. 

WebMD tells me that at 31 years old I had urinated over 90,000 times in my life. Surely I knew the difference between water breaking and a little pee-pee.  

Thank god for the nurse who indignantly exclaimed, clearly exasperated from the regularity for which she must answer this question, “It sure did! You want to see the trail that followed us from the lobby to here!?” She said it with all the strength and fire that could only come from fielding this question numerous times before.

Because that nurse knows what I am about to tell you: Trust your own damn instincts, girl.

After my oldest came six weeks early and spent the first month of his life in the NICU, I wrestled with: Why? I tried to figure out what it meant. I tried to find a reason or a lesson in it. 

Maybe I was looking for a silver lining in the pain and the fear that comes with delivering a baby that weighs less than a butternut squash. A baby that needs an incubator, feeding tube, and constant monitors to ensure his heart is beating, his temperature regulated and his lungs breathing.

During my baby’s stay in the NICU, I bumped into my primary OB in the hospital cafeteria. I asked him why my baby came early. He told me we’ll never know. He opined on several potential reasons. Then repeated: we’ll never know.

I was thankful for his answer. I appreciated that he was thoughtful, rather than quickly dishing default advice. He gave me an honest answer, rather than assuming he knew better than me.

Left to draw my own conclusions, this is the best I could come up with: It is a lesson to trust my own (and your) own instincts.

Like you trusted your instincts that it was not just a little tinkle. Like you knew that it was different than the other 90,000 times in your life that you had tinkled. 

In the face of being told to doubt yourself, you stayed strong. You persevered through humor with your friends, when you were scared inside. You persevered through research, when you knew it would likely reveal the truth you did not want to know. You persevered through continued doubt but you knew. 

Because you know your body. Because you know Little Mister. Because Little Mister is yours and no one else’s. 

This will not be the last time your judgment as a mother is questioned or doubted. There will be moments when others weigh in to question your judgment. Sometimes I am the one weighing in, questioning my own judgment!

I am not saying ignore others. I am saying don’t ignore yourself. Being a new mom does not make you less of a mom. 

Trust your own instincts. You will do this your way. You don’t have to do it anyone else’s way. Because you are no one else’s mom and Little Mister is no one else’s son (you do have to share him with Mister and Floyd).

You know him in your heart. You know it in your heart. You got this even when you don’t think you do.

Well about that crying thing getting better... 

Thank you Libby for your sweet words, your encouragement and support.

Now go check out Libby's blog!!
I would check out this post and make those treats immediately if I were you. 

Oct 12, 2016

NICU Necessities

I thought I would have plenty of time to think about what I wanted to pack and carry in my diaper bag once Little Mister was here.
Little did I know that my diaper bag would come in handy a whole lot earlier and need to hold a whole host of other necessities.

Every day that I travel to the NICU you would think that I am moving in.
I have tried to narrow down what I carry each day but it's not going well.

Because I spend a large chunk of my day (a day in the life post coming soon) I seem to need a lot of things in the NICU.
Here is a general run down:

1.  Diaper Bag : We were kindly gifted our diaper bag in our 'shower' (that we didn't attend-recap of that coming soon as well).  It has been a lifesaver!  I have been very pleased with the way it's worked out, plus it's cute to boot!

2.  Lunch box(es) : I carry 2 every day.  One I fill with milk bottles and one I fill with actual lunch.  Though the cafeteria isn't that bad, I try to take my lunch so that I don't eat fries every day.  I do get a Diet Dr. Pepper every day, it's sadly (or not!) the highlight of my day.  
Funny story - after I delivered the nurse asked if she could get me anything and I said, 'oh my gosh, I would LOVE a Diet Coke!'  She looked at me and said 'we have Diet Pepsi...'.  I think actual fire might have come out of my eyes.  All I had all day long was ice chips and a half a grape popsicle.   
Thankfully Diet Dr. Pepper is pretty good but nothing satisfies like my Diet Coke...

3.  iPad : My mom gave me an iPad mini for my birthday last year and never have I used it SO much.  It is the perfect size for reading, which I do a lot of while pumping and snuggling Little Mister.

4.  Hands free bra :  I went a week pumping without this thing and I am not sure why I did.  Literally THE best money I've ever spent.  I can do just about anything while pumping with this thing on.  Floyd has taken to sitting with me while I pump so thankfully this bra lets my hands be free to pet and snuggle him.

5.  Leggings : While I managed to get on jeans over the weekend for dinner out, I spend 99.9% of my time in leggings and work out gear.  Which is just fine by me because it's all the better for snuggling in ;)

6.  Boppy : I recently picked up a boppy and it makes feeding and holding Little Mister SO much easier.  This is one of those baby items I thought might just be hyped up but it is really worth it! It hugs your body so well and provides a great support to hold a baby.  

7.  Camera : Duh ;) while I have about a million photos of Little Mister on my phone, I have enjoyed having my real camera there to catch some very special photos of the babe.

8.  Chapstick :  The NICU is as dry as the Sahara so this is a must

9.  Good, thick lotion : See above

10.  Patience :  The past 3+ weeks have been the slowest and fastest of our lives EVER but above all else, patience is key.  The days go quickly and slowly there but in order to keep our sanity, we know that we must have a whole lotta patience.

Oct 5, 2016

Work and Weekend Wear for Less

I have been a loyal ThredUp customer for awhile and love how easy their site is to shop, the items the offer and how quickly they show up on my doorstep.  With our new lifestyle, these things are all very important to me.  If I can shop while pumping, snuggling or just resting, that is ideal.

Knowing that I will eventually need (and want) to put on real clothes again, I recently turned to ThredUp to pick up a few items as a refresher for my closet.  Because I thought I was going to be pregnant for all of the Fall season, I did not pick up any new items for my Fall wardrobe.  And because now my clothing budget is also being used for teeny, tiny things, I knew ThredUp was the perfect option to pick up a few Fall items for less!  I may also have picked up something for Little Mister...
I couldn't help it, my mouse just wandered to the baby section!

One of my favorite brands to look for and pick up from ThredUp is JCrew.  I love JCrew as much as the next girl but I do not love their prices.  ThredUp to the rescue!
While I love trendy pieces, when investing, I often try to pick up basics and classics that are going to last me a long time while also being able to layer/mix with other items I own.

While perusing the site, I quickly landed on the below items.
A camel sweater (classic and somehow I didn't own one) and a blue oxford popover. 
 I am already dreaming up about a million outfits for that popover.  From work outfits to casual weekends with some cute jeans and booties.
I was able to snag the sweater for $22.99 (regular $89.00) and the popover for $11.99 (regular $35.00)

While work and date night attire is fun, I love a cute casual outfit just as well.  With my daily trips to and from the NICU, I have been living in my casual wear but quickly realizing everything I own is mostly workout/running gear.  I was in desperate need of some cute casual wear that didn't also grace the presence of the gym.
 I was immediately drawn to this cozy sweatshirt ($11.99, regular $36.00) and pretty sure I will be living in it this fall.

As I said, I couldn't pass up the baby section and when I saw this onesie I knew it was a MUST for Little Mister.
I mean it has bassets on it, clearly he needs it!

I saved over $125 on these items, how amazing is that?!
I would say my Fall wardrobe is off to a good start!

Lucky for you guys, ThredUp is offering some amazing limited time deals!
-15% off for existing customers: Use the code LNB15
-$50 off $125 or more for first time customers: Use code WQA50
-$30 off $75 or more for first time customers: Use code YHJ75

Get to shoppin!

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